What if you had a toxic substance in your bloodstream causing you anxiety, stress, and excessive hair loss. You’d want to get rid of it ASAP, right?
What if the toxic substance wasn’t technically floating around in your bloodstream but more like a person wreaking havoc in your life?
A person you know well? A friend? A friend of a friend?
We’ve all experienced less-than-stellar people in our lives. You know those people who have really high expectations and think you can’t do anything right?
They’re never happy being with you no matter how hard you try to please them.
They always have something to complain about, or someway you can do or be better.
Toxic people like these suck the joy out of life because you spend all your time and energy stressing about making them happy instead of making yourself happy.
So, how can you regain your life’s joy and keep the peace in your life?
Make the decision to tame or drop these toxic people out of your life altogether!
Say What?! How can I drop a friend?
“When one door closes, another one opens.” – Alexander Graham Bell
Quite simply, when you drop a toxic friend from your life, another, even better friend, will find their way to you.
It may not happen overnight, but eventually just like magic, the right people will start to appear in your life and you’ll start to consider them as someone who could be a great friend.
Because you no longer spend your time stressing out about how to please the toxic people in your life, the door opens up to other friendship opportunities you didn’t see before.
Alternately, when you drop toxic people from your life you get to spend your newfound time and energy doing things you love to do.
I recently got divorced and I’ve always wanted to be a bartender. So I decided to go to bartending school and get my liquor licenses.
So many amazing new people have come into my life because I am no longer focusing on the toxic relationship but on things I love to do for me.
See how that works?
Instead of spending your energy trying to please someone else who doesn’t even appreciate it, spend your energy accomplishing a goal you’ve always wanted to achieve.
Do it for you!
You deserve respect, not to be runover or rundown by toxic people in your life. It’s time to say goodby!
Can a toxic relationship be tamed?
If you prefer to maintain the relationship with a toxic person, you’ll need to grow some thick skin and reinforce your boundaries.
And if you haven’t established any boundaries with this person, now is the time to set them!
For example, do you respond to this persons demands at all hours of the day and night? Stop it!
Set boundaries and tell your friend when they can expect a response.
You can say something like, “I will respond to your text within 24-48 hours. If it’s an emergency please call me.”
If it’s a friend worth keeping, they will respect and understand your need for boundaries. If they don’t, maybe it’s time to cut them loose.
What other crazy demands does this person expect of you? Create a solution you can work with and communicate that solution clearly to the other person.
Remember, a boundary is something you create for yourself. Not a way for you to control other people.
Additionally, boundaries need to be communicated only when they have been violated.
We typically don’t tell everyone we meet, “By the way, don’t hit me or I will run and call the police.”
However, if that boundary is violated, you must communicate to the other person that they have crossed a boundary with you and clearly tell them what you will do if they don’t stop.
Maybe it will be to call the police!
Healthy boundaries promote self responsibility and empowerment and often lead to closer relationships with others.
I know personally how hard it is to let toxic people out of your life and it’s one of the first thing’s I cover in my latest “Transform Your Life in 30 Days” checklist.
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