I used to worry a lot! I remember when I was in elementary school, my dad used to call me a worry wart.
I worried about not being good enough. I worried about the future. I worried about getting good grades. I worried all the time!
Moreover, I’ve noticed an increase in the amount of time and energy my clients spend worrying.
They worry about traffic, COVID, the outcome of the election, the stability of their job, their kid’s future, etc.
For example, I had client once tell me she was worried about what her new boyfriend’s friends would think about her.
To some of you, that may seem like a really silly thing to worry about, but some of you (myself included) can totally relate.
Worrying is an indicator that we’re thinking thoughts that aren’t serving us.
But so often we don’t even realize what we are thinking because the thoughts are coming so fast we just know it doesn’t feel good.
Most people don’t even realize they are worrying until they notice they are chronically feeling anxious, depressed or just generally feel bad about themselves or their life.
The quickest and best way to get relief from excessive worrying is to take a worry walk.
Take a Worry Walk
A worry walk is different from going on a normal walk because you are going to focus your energy on doing three important things.
- Choose to worry on purpose.
Before you go on your walk you’ll want to make sure you have written down a list of the things you want to worry about. I call this, choosing to worry on purpose.
Pick the best time to go on your worry walk and put it on your calendar.
Then throughout the day when you start to worry about something write it down and save it for your walk.
Take your list when you go on your walk and choose to worry on purpose.
2. Allow the worry to work itself out.
With your list in hand, read the first one out loud. After you read it, play it out as if the worst case happened.
For example, with the romantic relationship client I mentioned above I asked, “So what if his friends don’t like you and they convince him not to like you. One day he says to you, I don’t like you anymore because my friends don’t like you.”
She said,”That’s probably not someone I want to be with anyway.”
Me, “Exactly, so why are you worrying about it?”
In most cases, you begin to notice you are worrying for no good reason.
In addition, your brain will calm down once you play the worst case scenario all the way through and realize the worst that can happen probably won’t anyway.
3. Make Space to Solve It.
If you’ve tried to stop worrying with no luck, walking while worrying may be exactly what you need.
The way this works is because worrying alone is non-productive. Walking is productive.
So when you worry and walk you are utilizing what would normally be non-productive time in a productive way.
In addition, movement naturally stimulates creativity. When you go for a walk outside in nature the creative side of your brain fires up.
When the creative side of your brain fires up you can more easily come up with creative solutions to the issues you are worried about.
In conclusion, give yourself permission to worry in a way that serves you and opens space for you to be the best possible version of yourself
Are you ready to open space to become the best version of yourself but not sure how? I can help.